Sparkling & Savasana Event Recap

Story time: There was for a brief moment in sharing my fitness journey I remember feeling afraid to show sides of me that were truly a part of my life. Some of those included “cheat meals”, adventures that had nothing to do with fitness, and even my love for wine and cocktails. The hardest part about those moments was that hiding those from people who looked up to me as a “fitness inspiration” made me feel like I wasn’t being authentic to myself. It was as if I was painting this completely perfect idea of someone who exercised religiously and ate nothing but kale, grilled chicken breast, and quinoa. Maybe I felt the need to do that because in some ways if I wasn’t showing people the “best version” of my fit life than maybe I wouldn’t be able to live up to their expectation of a “fitness blogger.”

I’m not sure what exact moment it was when I just said, ‘Screw it. I need to be me. 100% unapologetically me in every single way.’

But I do remember a time when one of my old coworkers jokingly said something like, “Oooh GOFITJO’s eating pizza at 10AM...if only her followers knew.” I remembered not wanting people to think of that of me when I was out at a restaurant enjoying wine or an entree that was the complete opposite of a healthier option on the menu. And so...I posted that moment, unapologetically.

 

A few weekends ago, I partnered up with Henry’s Hard Sparkling to co-host an event where both of my loves for fitness and a little bit of a socialized sipping collided in one event, Sparkling & Savasana with Henry’s Hard Sparkling at the Chambers SF located in The Phoenix Hotel. It was so perfect because just a few days before that I told my friends that I need to do more yoga, I think my body is really craving it. The rain had just stopped, but just in case we were under the patio awning at the Chambers surrounded by heat lamps keeping us nice and cozy.

I’ve gone through so many different phases of my fitness journey from being on a weight loss journey trying to get control of my health and creating new habits, to spending 18 months training for competitions as a bodybuilding competitor, and now trying to recreate my definition of balanced living while still trying to #livehardish in both my fitness life and life. It’s taken about 3 years or so, but I’ve come to realize that both worlds can live together, as long as you are understand that choices you make when it comes to food and alcohol and how that can affect your fitness goals.

Here’s a few things to do to practice moderation and balance with alcohol.

  1. Drink a full glass of water between every drink. It’s easy to lose a little self control when you are enjoying a night out with friends and loved ones. One thing that has always helped me is having a full glass of water between each drink. This not only helps me to stay hydrated, but keeps me full so I’m not having too many glasses of wine. If you’re trying to avoid any peer pressure or teasing from saucy friends, ask the bartender for sparkling water and throw a lime in it. It’ll look like a gin and tonic and no one but you will know the difference.

  2. Find low carb alternatives. Hard liquor is often praised to be a better alternative to beer or wine, but if you’re having your hard liquor in cocktails chances are you’re consuming a lot of unnecessary sugar as well. I’ll typically order a glass of Cabernet Sauvignon over an old fashioned with my dinner while out at a restaurant, but if I’m at home a bottle of wine can disappear quite quickly between my husband and I or during Girls Night In. I was recently introduced to Henry’s Hard Sparkling which is under 95 calories a bottle and just 3 carbs! The perfect beverage for those looking to celebrate both fitness accomplishments and live celebrations.

  3. Don’t over do it. Lifting weights often and hard can cause injuries and muscle fatigue and so can drinking habits. Being healthy and in shape to enjoy life with the people you love is the most precious gift anyone can have. So live in a way that allows you to stay active and keep up with all of your life’s greatest adventures.

I was compensated by Henry’s Hard Sparkling to create this post, but all points of views are my own. Cheers to living that relentlessly beautiful life!

Joanne E

I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters and married to a man who completes me. I started my fitness journey as a way to heal my soul and launched my blog in hopes to continue to inspire and empower women to use fitness as a tool to heal depression and find their self worth. I strongly believe that each woman deserves to be in love with herself just as much as her man does. I have an obsession with reusable water bottles, I enjoy action movies, and I’m in love with burpees.

The Greatest Thing You Need to Transform Your Overall Health

Throughout my fitness journey I learned that the one thing you needed to transform your health is probably the least most talked about. It's not motivation, determination, discipline, or any of the other traits you probably are thinking of. Although those things are incredibly important they are not the greatest thing you need. I've found that the one thing you need in order to transpire change is forgiveness

It's common, but not the reason for some of us, to start our fitness journey because we're trying to "fix" something. It's as if we're programmed by society and outside expectations to view the changes that occur in our bodies, like getting out of shape and gaining weight, as a negative affect of shifting our precious energy into another area of our live's needs for that season or period in life. In my personal experience, I gained weight because I was pregnant with two children and after Olivia was born I was more focused on my career and family life than I was on losing the baby weight.

As much as others told me it was "OK." There was a part of me that felt guilty for not being like those other women who seemed to bounce right back to pre baby shape in 6 weeks. There was a huge part of me that almost shamed myself for not being this "perfect" mother/wife who had it all together. This mindset of guilt and shame was the seed that planted the stories of failure in my mind which then became toxic to my mental and physical health. The feelings of shame and self blame are cues that we all need in order to pay more attention to the actions that lead us there in the first place. These feelings are actually the first steps of self forgiveness and its a feeling we all need in order to let go and move forwards towards our health goals.

While there's no way to reverse time and undo what's happened in the past, you can make peace with it and provide yourself closure.

Here's 4 steps you can take towards self forgiveness:

  1.  Remind yourself that no one is perfect, including you. This might be the most important step. It's easy to get caught in a perfectionism mindset. But making mistakes is part of the journey. I read somewhere before that underneath one successful moment is a thousand failures and it is so true. Imagine all the times a baby falls in order to learn to make that first step, they rarely get it on the first try, and they keep getting up until they've got it. Babies don't aim for perfection they aim for progress when their learning to walk. It's something as adults we seem to forget as we're learning how to create a healthy balance in our lives. 
  2. Reduce rumination and focus on rumbling. In Brene Brown's book, Rising Strong, she refers to a reality check that we need as rumbling. While its easy to mistake rumbling for rumination, she states that "rumbling requires a degree of mindfulness." Ruminating is not being mindful, because you are over-identifying with something or ignoring stuff. But rumbling requires a little self identification of what you need to understand about yourself and the limitations or boundaries that need to be placed in order to not feel that same pain or suffering.
  3. Practice self-forgiveness. Like yoga, body building, playing a sport, or even learning a new skill; you need to practice! It's ok to recall or relive some of the past experiences and feelings the situation has caused. And when you do each time give yourself the grace, compassion, and empathy needed in order to forgive and let go. Some days its easier and others its more painful to recall. It's process that can lead to healing on step at a time.
  4. Embrace self-acceptance and change the things you have the power to control. The past is done, its written and we cannot rewrite it. So come to terms with it and accept it. What you do have the power to change is your future by redefining your actions towards it today. Getting stuck in a playback loop of the past is detrimental to your mental health and can have long term effects like depression or immune dysfunction. Keep that in mind the moment you feel like hitting replay and watching the scene in your mind over and over again. 

We often view health and fitness as physical conditions such as exercise and what we put into our bodies as fuel. And as much as the conversation is changing these days that health also equates to our mental and emotional wellbeing, there's still a whole lot of unsaid conversations about anxiety, depression, and the physical affects of mental illnesses or emotional imbalance. When we are unable to identify our mistakes, forgive ourselves, and let it go; we hold ourselves back from our greatest potential in living the most healthiest and happiest lives we deserve. 

Read my other posts for The Refined Collective

This article is written in collaboration with some of my favorite women.

Read more from #therefinedcollective:

The Refined Woman 

Lauren Scruggs Kennedy 

Chelsey Korus 

Tutti del Monte Photography

Nikia Phoenix

 

Joanne E

I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters and married to a man who completes me. I started my fitness journey as a way to heal my soul and launched my blog in hopes to continue to inspire and empower women to use fitness as a tool to heal depression and find their self worth. I strongly believe that each woman deserves to be in love with herself just as much as her man does. I have an obsession with reusable water bottles, I enjoy action movies, and I’m in love with burpees.

Weekend Leftovers Vol. 6

I almost didn't get this out this evening, mostly because I spent all day in bed sick with some weird stomach bug and writing a blog post just didn't seem to be a priority. But here I am getting my Weekend Leftovers out because despite this weekend's Bay Area forecast looking like major crap, I had a weekend filled with sunshine. 

As some of you guys remember from a handful of my IG Story rants, the hubs was gone for an entire week with his dudes hence the 13 hour trip to LA. I loved having the house full of estrogen but of course, we love our main dude and we're so thrilled to be complete again! 
 

Friday 04.31 - Girls Night in at my house

I can't even put to words how important these women are to my life. They have been my workout buddies, keep me in check buddies, and just a few of the core women I run to when I need to cry and to celebrate some of my latest weird accomplishments. What's crazy is that never did I imagine that starting a blog or Instagram account to share my fitness would help me gain some of the world's richest treasures.

05.01 - Saturday

Jonathan came home from Dude Valley, his boy trip. We were the complete Adobo Fam all over again and it felt amazing. Olivia missed him so much that she created a cute little welcome home sign. Since it was 80 degrees and gorgeous we ran off to Smitten Ice Cream to cool off. 

We spent the rest of the day talking about Dude Valley and his adventures in the desert with a huge group of talented wedding, life style, and commercial photographers. I mean when 11 photographers get together to run around Death Valley in 2 RVs there are bound to be some stories. One of Jon's passions is shooting astrophotography, something I am always in awe with when I see his work. 

Sunday 04.02 - South Bay BBG Meet Up

My ladies hosted a meet up this past weekend and it was so great to see some familiar faces and to make new friends. Many thanks to the hubs for coming along after a tiring trip to photograph our Feel Good, Do Good. In a lot of the brain storming conversations about this meet up we talked about how incredibly impactful a group of women can be when they are doing something for the community at large. I mean you see it all over Instagram with BBG Community as a whole and so we thought, what if we gathered for a different purpose. What if we gathered to not only sweat, but to give back to a community that has served us. Feel Good, Do Good was a fitness gathering benefiting Planned Parenthood. The goal was to raise $300 and we all blew that goal out of the water and raised $640.

The energy of the room was contagious. You can feel the love, the positivity, and the community sweating together for a cause! Feel Good, Do Good definitely set the tone for the upcoming week. Check out the rest of the photos from the event here

Joanne E

I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters and married to a man who completes me. I started my fitness journey as a way to heal my soul and launched my blog in hopes to continue to inspire and empower women to use fitness as a tool to heal depression and find their self worth. I strongly believe that each woman deserves to be in love with herself just as much as her man does. I have an obsession with reusable water bottles, I enjoy action movies, and I’m in love with burpees.

30 Spring Favorites under $100

While working your fitness its inevitable that your body will change. Maybe you're goal is to lose weight or to gain more muscle mass and build curves. Either way your mind and body will begin to go through change. The biggest change for me was my confidence and that meant finding new clothes that would suit that new change. I remember a time where shopping was just the most stressful thing ever. Things either never looked right or I was just seeing it through a lens of body dysmorphia and making up reasons why the clothes I tried on were just not right for me. 

In the past two years a lot of my wardrobe became dri-FIT and luon. I turned into one of those women who lived, sweat, and ate in her workout wardrobe. This isn't a bad thing at all, but it got to the point where when it came to a non sweat event I struggled to redefine my style. So the past few months I've been really getting back into the swing of dressing up, shopping for non workout clothes, and shoes that were not sneakers. A couple of weeks ago I posted a photo of me in my new Cotton On stripped maxi dress, I loved the softness of the fabric and the feel of the dress that I ended up picking it up in black, which I love because it just gives the entire dress a whole different vibe. 

30 Spring Favorites under $100

Joanne E

I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters and married to a man who completes me. I started my fitness journey as a way to heal my soul and launched my blog in hopes to continue to inspire and empower women to use fitness as a tool to heal depression and find their self worth. I strongly believe that each woman deserves to be in love with herself just as much as her man does. I have an obsession with reusable water bottles, I enjoy action movies, and I’m in love with burpees.

Weekend Leftovers Vol. 5

I shared this transformation story online and the one thing that I had realized as I started to look back through all my photos during 2013 - 2015 in my camera roll was that there were no other photos outside of my fitness journey, which made me sad for a bit. My life during that time was so focused on my health and fitness goals. It's so refreshing to look back now and see my camera roll fill with memories and not just transformation photos and meal prep ideas. 

Friday 03.24.2017 - 13 hour trip to LA

I jumped on a plane to LA for a quick trip. When I say quick, I mean in LA the first flight and out of LA the last flight. I had several appointments in LA and caught up with two friends that I hold dear to my heart.

I love watching the sunrise and sunset over the clouds. It's like I'm sailing through my dreams.

Lunch at Kendall's Brassarie with Remi. One of the things that I appreciate about my fellow blogger girlfriend Remi is how incredibly supportive she is. I had the chance to meet her in person last June when I went to LA for Kayla Itsine's Sweat Tour. When we both arrived at Juice Served Here wearing the same color scheme without even planning it, I knew we were going to hit if off as friends. Every time I come to LA, I make sure to carve out a little time for trouble with this girl because she's full of sunshine and who doesn't wait some extra laughs. 

We had lunch over at Kendall's Brasserie. Our meal started off with a huge plate of charcuterie and a lovely cocktail (or in my case, two). We ordered the deviled eggs that was topped with uni and the crudite chopped salad to share.   

They have a sweet little speakeasy opening up shortly called the Boardroom, which I cannot wait to try when I go back for another visit.  

After lunch, we zipped back over to Remi's place so I can drop her off and head off to Sweetfin Poke to meet one of my dearest friends Lydia. Lydia was the editor of one of my favorite wedding blogs, Ever Ours. She's been a long time family friend and every time I head to LA it's always for a jam packed schedule so it was nice to make sure to prioritize spending some much needed catch up sesh with her. 

I'm really particular with my poke bowls. I love them pretty traditional about my poke, but I love Sweetfin's California take on this Hawaiian dish. You can either build your own or order one of their Signature bowls. Either way you're in for a treat.  

Saturday 03.25.2017 - A family day at Golfland

Since the hubs was heading out to a boys trip in the desert we wanted to make sure we got in some much needed play time with the girls. I'm terrible at mini golf BTW, which probably means I'm terrible at regular sized golf. 

Sunday 03.26.2017 - A quiet day with the girls....before the solo parenting the madness began.

Sunday was spent mostly prepping for the week. After we dropped Jon off to the airport we went back home and started to do the fun things like laundry and tidying up the house. After that we decided to go and take a little break and head to San Jose Public Market for a little lunch. I love the pizza over at Pizza Bocca Lupo, they serve a wood fired thin crust Neopolitan style pizza. 

After, I had my daughter shoot a few pieces of content for some work I've got coming up soon and was simply blown away by some of the test shots. 

Airis is turning 13 in a month. She's been growing into the typical teenage girl which means her time is mostly spent in her room, online, talking to friends, and wanting to find ways to push her independence while still trying to hold on to some of her child like ways. It's been such an interesting evolution to watch unfold as there are days where I just want to pull my hair out, but most of the time I'm simply in awe of her. Motherhood is rocky as shit, but totally worth it all in the end. 

Joanne E

I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters and married to a man who completes me. I started my fitness journey as a way to heal my soul and launched my blog in hopes to continue to inspire and empower women to use fitness as a tool to heal depression and find their self worth. I strongly believe that each woman deserves to be in love with herself just as much as her man does. I have an obsession with reusable water bottles, I enjoy action movies, and I’m in love with burpees.