How to Manifest Success

Success is a tough one and although I don’t have it all figured out. I was sponsored by Zappos to share a few things I learned about manifesting success, but as always my thoughts and opinions are 100% my own. 

We all want to strive to live a successful life. But what does success really look like? What does it mean to be successful? Success looks different on everyone, but when you break down what makes a person so successful at hitting their target goals there is one thing in common: they do something they don't want to do.

This doesn't mean that they are in soul sucking jobs they hate or stay in relationships that are toxic. Doing the thing they don't like to do means that their goals are so important to them that the work becomes irrelevant. Each and every one of us will be faced with a challenge or task in life that we don't want to do. This could mean getting up at 4:30am to be at the gym by 5am before your work day, giving up fried foods, tackling monthly accounting, paying off bills to get out of debt, and the list goes on. But at the end of the day in order to get closer to your goals, personal or career; you have to do something you don't want to do. Ask yourself: are your goals bigger than your distractions? What are you willing to sacrifice to get your closer to being the person you want to be?

3 Ways to Manifest Success:

  1. Feel it and believe it. One of the first things I do when I manifest successful moments in my life is I envision it and start to evoke a strong sense of belief. To me this is the first step to achieving anything in life. It’s also probably the most important. What we don’t realize is how strong our subconscious mind truly is. Once the subconscious mind accepts an idea, it begins to execute it. It does not question or judge it just reacts. 
  2. Clear any mental road blocks. Because we live in a society where information is available at our finger tips, we’re more susceptible to looking at outside influences to dictate our mindset. In doing this, we slowly begin to have this mindset of not being enough for our goals or our dreams. These can create mental road blocks that can leave us in analysis paralysis. Clear any limiting beliefs that you might have that’s holding you back. 
  3. Be Patient. As you become clearer in what you want to achieve you can start taking the steps towards your goals. But you need to remember to be patient, the best things in life take time. 

So this is my challenge to you: take a moment today to list down one thing you are not looking for to doing and choose a target date. Make sure that this one thing relates to your target goal. Maybe this is setting a monthly budget for your household, maybe it’s the one area in your career you have to tackle in order to move up in your position, or maybe it's committing to a change in your lifestyle that will help you get back in shape or healthier, like running or trying a new group fitness class.

One of the things I love about Brooks is their dedication to helping you build your confidence in running whether your on the train or running towards your life’s greatest goals. If you’re an exercise junkie like me then you know how much moving your body can evoke a spirit of confidence and this mindset that you can do anything. I’ve always bene a long time fan of shopping for shoes on Zappos. I remember when I first discovered my love for online shopping how excited I would get to get my Zappos shipments in what felt like overnight because they were so fast at shipping the things I bought.  Their easy return policies made it so easy for me because when you’re busy trying to make the most of out of your life, both in the gym and out, you don’t have time to fuss with the overcomplicated.

Joanne E

I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters and married to a man who completes me. I started my fitness journey as a way to heal my soul and launched my blog in hopes to continue to inspire and empower women to use fitness as a tool to heal depression and find their self worth. I strongly believe that each woman deserves to be in love with herself just as much as her man does. I have an obsession with reusable water bottles, I enjoy action movies, and I’m in love with burpees.

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Weekend Leftovers Vol. 7

Weekend Leftovers Vol. 7

There’s something about New York. I really can’t put it into words why I love that place so much. It’s not like I had very many memories of it growing up. My folks moved to CA when I was 4 years old. But the moment I started to walk around Chelsea Village and Greenwich there was a part of me that knew I was home. It was like as if I could feel the city’s energy recharging me with every step I took. I also lucked out because according to friends it was the best time of year to come because the weather was just absolutely perfect. There was no rain, no sign of humidity, and the climate matched Northern California to a tee. 

I hope you enjoy this edition of Weekend Leftovers as much as I enjoyed capturing pieces of it and reliving it through these photographs.

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A Day in My Life with Natori

Before I started my fitness journey, I told myself I would only wear workout clothes when I worked out. I promised myself that I wouldn’t turn into one of those women who wore them 24/7. Along with transforming my health, my wardrobe transformed too and soon it began to be filled with sports bras and activewear. Lately, I’ve been trying redefine my style and have been playing around with my personal style again.

However, some days are more challenging than others and running around from one thing to the next is becoming more common in my life. I often have a small window to get ready before my day of work, running errands, and then an afternoon filled with helping with homework, working on my blog, and studying for my health and nutrition coaching certification. 

Sometimes my schedule is so packed that it leaves zero time to shower. Yes, I get it, that’s gross. But hey that’s life and if I’m the first one to admit that it happens, my bad. Here’s the secret everyone: I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE! 

Finding a sports bra that not only provides the support I need to work out, but also the comfort to live in all day can be a challenge. I love the support of a sports bra, but sometimes they’re too restrictive for everyday wear, and for the woman on the go, comfort is a necessity. Not too long ago I found out one of my favorite lingerie brands, Natori, also has a line of sports bras, which was a bit of a game changer for me. The Natori Zen Bra is stylish and offers that incredible support and comfort you need for everyday life. The performance Cool Dry fabric wicks sweat quickly making those wardrobe transitions in life easier. 

 

A day in the life of Jo (typically looks like this): 

0600 - wake up 

0630 - kids wake up/Instagram a little (you know there’s so much truth in this)

0700 - breakfast time 

0740 - dropping off the kids Tues/Thurs, my hubs does M/W/Fri. (we like to split our duties)

0830 - sweat time

1000 - work grind/errands/meetings 

0330 - kids get home from school and I’m juggling all the hats 

0530 - dinner prep 

0600 - dinner time

0730 - bedtime routines begin 

0830 - hangout with the hubs 

1000 - head to bed, but spend time on Netflix, checking emails, Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook, YouTube

0000 - bed time 

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As you can see my daily life is pretty normal. From time to time I may have the occasional social event to go to or I’m off traveling for work, but it’s all pretty ordinary. I just like to believe I’m an everyday woman finding extraordinary ways to live an ordinary life. 

This post was created in partnership with Natori to show you how I live my extra ordinary day.

Joanne E

I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters and married to a man who completes me. I started my fitness journey as a way to heal my soul and launched my blog in hopes to continue to inspire and empower women to use fitness as a tool to heal depression and find their self worth. I strongly believe that each woman deserves to be in love with herself just as much as her man does. I have an obsession with reusable water bottles, I enjoy action movies, and I’m in love with burpees.

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Sparkling & Savasana Event Recap

Story time: There was for a brief moment in sharing my fitness journey I remember feeling afraid to show sides of me that were truly a part of my life. Some of those included “cheat meals”, adventures that had nothing to do with fitness, and even my love for wine and cocktails. The hardest part about those moments was that hiding those from people who looked up to me as a “fitness inspiration” made me feel like I wasn’t being authentic to myself. It was as if I was painting this completely perfect idea of someone who exercised religiously and ate nothing but kale, grilled chicken breast, and quinoa. Maybe I felt the need to do that because in some ways if I wasn’t showing people the “best version” of my fit life than maybe I wouldn’t be able to live up to their expectation of a “fitness blogger.”

I’m not sure what exact moment it was when I just said, ‘Screw it. I need to be me. 100% unapologetically me in every single way.’

But I do remember a time when one of my old coworkers jokingly said something like, “Oooh GOFITJO’s eating pizza at 10AM...if only her followers knew.” I remembered not wanting people to think of that of me when I was out at a restaurant enjoying wine or an entree that was the complete opposite of a healthier option on the menu. And so...I posted that moment, unapologetically.

 

A few weekends ago, I partnered up with Henry’s Hard Sparkling to co-host an event where both of my loves for fitness and a little bit of a socialized sipping collided in one event, Sparkling & Savasana with Henry’s Hard Sparkling at the Chambers SF located in The Phoenix Hotel. It was so perfect because just a few days before that I told my friends that I need to do more yoga, I think my body is really craving it. The rain had just stopped, but just in case we were under the patio awning at the Chambers surrounded by heat lamps keeping us nice and cozy.

I’ve gone through so many different phases of my fitness journey from being on a weight loss journey trying to get control of my health and creating new habits, to spending 18 months training for competitions as a bodybuilding competitor, and now trying to recreate my definition of balanced living while still trying to #livehardish in both my fitness life and life. It’s taken about 3 years or so, but I’ve come to realize that both worlds can live together, as long as you are understand that choices you make when it comes to food and alcohol and how that can affect your fitness goals.

Here’s a few things to do to practice moderation and balance with alcohol.

  1. Drink a full glass of water between every drink. It’s easy to lose a little self control when you are enjoying a night out with friends and loved ones. One thing that has always helped me is having a full glass of water between each drink. This not only helps me to stay hydrated, but keeps me full so I’m not having too many glasses of wine. If you’re trying to avoid any peer pressure or teasing from saucy friends, ask the bartender for sparkling water and throw a lime in it. It’ll look like a gin and tonic and no one but you will know the difference.

  2. Find low carb alternatives. Hard liquor is often praised to be a better alternative to beer or wine, but if you’re having your hard liquor in cocktails chances are you’re consuming a lot of unnecessary sugar as well. I’ll typically order a glass of Cabernet Sauvignon over an old fashioned with my dinner while out at a restaurant, but if I’m at home a bottle of wine can disappear quite quickly between my husband and I or during Girls Night In. I was recently introduced to Henry’s Hard Sparkling which is under 95 calories a bottle and just 3 carbs! The perfect beverage for those looking to celebrate both fitness accomplishments and live celebrations.

  3. Don’t over do it. Lifting weights often and hard can cause injuries and muscle fatigue and so can drinking habits. Being healthy and in shape to enjoy life with the people you love is the most precious gift anyone can have. So live in a way that allows you to stay active and keep up with all of your life’s greatest adventures.

I was compensated by Henry’s Hard Sparkling to create this post, but all points of views are my own. Cheers to living that relentlessly beautiful life!

Joanne E

I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters and married to a man who completes me. I started my fitness journey as a way to heal my soul and launched my blog in hopes to continue to inspire and empower women to use fitness as a tool to heal depression and find their self worth. I strongly believe that each woman deserves to be in love with herself just as much as her man does. I have an obsession with reusable water bottles, I enjoy action movies, and I’m in love with burpees.

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The Greatest Thing You Need to Transform Your Overall Health

Throughout my fitness journey I learned that the one thing you needed to transform your health is probably the least most talked about. It's not motivation, determination, discipline, or any of the other traits you probably are thinking of. Although those things are incredibly important they are not the greatest thing you need. I've found that the one thing you need in order to transpire change is forgiveness

It's common, but not the reason for some of us, to start our fitness journey because we're trying to "fix" something. It's as if we're programmed by society and outside expectations to view the changes that occur in our bodies, like getting out of shape and gaining weight, as a negative affect of shifting our precious energy into another area of our live's needs for that season or period in life. In my personal experience, I gained weight because I was pregnant with two children and after Olivia was born I was more focused on my career and family life than I was on losing the baby weight.

As much as others told me it was "OK." There was a part of me that felt guilty for not being like those other women who seemed to bounce right back to pre baby shape in 6 weeks. There was a huge part of me that almost shamed myself for not being this "perfect" mother/wife who had it all together. This mindset of guilt and shame was the seed that planted the stories of failure in my mind which then became toxic to my mental and physical health. The feelings of shame and self blame are cues that we all need in order to pay more attention to the actions that lead us there in the first place. These feelings are actually the first steps of self forgiveness and its a feeling we all need in order to let go and move forwards towards our health goals.

While there's no way to reverse time and undo what's happened in the past, you can make peace with it and provide yourself closure.

Here's 4 steps you can take towards self forgiveness:

  1.  Remind yourself that no one is perfect, including you. This might be the most important step. It's easy to get caught in a perfectionism mindset. But making mistakes is part of the journey. I read somewhere before that underneath one successful moment is a thousand failures and it is so true. Imagine all the times a baby falls in order to learn to make that first step, they rarely get it on the first try, and they keep getting up until they've got it. Babies don't aim for perfection they aim for progress when their learning to walk. It's something as adults we seem to forget as we're learning how to create a healthy balance in our lives. 
  2. Reduce rumination and focus on rumbling. In Brene Brown's book, Rising Strong, she refers to a reality check that we need as rumbling. While its easy to mistake rumbling for rumination, she states that "rumbling requires a degree of mindfulness." Ruminating is not being mindful, because you are over-identifying with something or ignoring stuff. But rumbling requires a little self identification of what you need to understand about yourself and the limitations or boundaries that need to be placed in order to not feel that same pain or suffering.
  3. Practice self-forgiveness. Like yoga, body building, playing a sport, or even learning a new skill; you need to practice! It's ok to recall or relive some of the past experiences and feelings the situation has caused. And when you do each time give yourself the grace, compassion, and empathy needed in order to forgive and let go. Some days its easier and others its more painful to recall. It's process that can lead to healing on step at a time.
  4. Embrace self-acceptance and change the things you have the power to control. The past is done, its written and we cannot rewrite it. So come to terms with it and accept it. What you do have the power to change is your future by redefining your actions towards it today. Getting stuck in a playback loop of the past is detrimental to your mental health and can have long term effects like depression or immune dysfunction. Keep that in mind the moment you feel like hitting replay and watching the scene in your mind over and over again. 

We often view health and fitness as physical conditions such as exercise and what we put into our bodies as fuel. And as much as the conversation is changing these days that health also equates to our mental and emotional wellbeing, there's still a whole lot of unsaid conversations about anxiety, depression, and the physical affects of mental illnesses or emotional imbalance. When we are unable to identify our mistakes, forgive ourselves, and let it go; we hold ourselves back from our greatest potential in living the most healthiest and happiest lives we deserve. 

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Joanne E

I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters and married to a man who completes me. I started my fitness journey as a way to heal my soul and launched my blog in hopes to continue to inspire and empower women to use fitness as a tool to heal depression and find their self worth. I strongly believe that each woman deserves to be in love with herself just as much as her man does. I have an obsession with reusable water bottles, I enjoy action movies, and I’m in love with burpees.

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