The pressure women carry for having to keep up with society standards around beauty, fitness, and careers. Throw motherhood into that mix and you can only imagine the anxiety that can manifest by the innocent act of simply "trying to do you boo." I became a mother at 21, just when I was starting my very first career as a hairstylist. I wasn't married at the time and both my husband and I were barely adults trying to figure out this thing called "adulting." We both didn't come from families with money so a household with two working parents was our only option. Thankfully our parents were close enough to watch Airis at the time, which saved us on childcare expenses, but it was HARD AF! Not only did I have the pressure of building a clientele, learning how to become better at my craft, and being a decent adult, but now I had the pressure of raising another human life.
12 months ago I was laid off of my full time position at VSCO. This gave me the opportunity and chance to pursue a whole new career and jump into my passions head on. Everyday these past 12 months was filled with hope, excitement, promise, and fear, but I knew deep inside that if I believed in my dreams and that if every action was aligned with my intention I would make something out of nothing. It's been one hell of a ride and it's only the beginning which is probably the most exciting part!
To all my fitness girls out there. Have you ever gone shopping with the intention to buy “normal people” clothing and walked out with workout leggings and sneakers instead?
Hmmm...Never happens right?! JK It happens to me every single time and kicking myself in the butt for not picking up something to wear to a non fitness related function. The struggle is real.
I recently was introduced to Trunk Club and I wish I had found it sooner. Funny enough when I told my husband about it he was like, “Oh yeah I know about them…” I looked at him and was like “WTF...where have I been"? Now on to the review...
Do you remember a time when opinions of others didn’t matter? Hmmm...what was that answer?
The older I get the less time I seem to have, and when I do find the time I really feel the necessity to invest in taking care of myself by slowing down and hitting the pause button. It’s so easy to fall into the trap, get caught up with what other people are doing, and how they’re living their life. Sadly, what screws us up the most in our life is this picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be.
One day it just clicks… you realize what’s important and what isn’t. You learn to care less about what other people think of you and more about what you think of yourself. You realize how far you’ve come and you remember when you thought things were such a mess that you would never recover. And you SMILE. You smile because you are truly proud of yourself and the person you’ve fought to become.
Anxiety happens when we worry about the future, planning for it, and trying to predict it, as if figuring it out now will cushion the blow. The thing is the future is always changing and will always be a place of uncertainty and fear. But the future can also be the home of our wildest dreams and hopes. Don’t hold yourself back because of something you cannot control, instead adapt. The quicker you can learn to adapt and redirect time and energy the easier it become to get things things you value in life accomplished. Looking back at the past only causes us to ruminate over things we cannot change. Give yourself grace. Failures are an opportunity for us to reflect on what we did and how we failed, so we can change the mindset and path in the present moment.
A lot of my self reflection happens in those few moments I get to pause, while I’m home lounging around in comfy clothes like this new lounge wear from Third Love. It’s when I can strip off any of the fictitious labels that workout clothes puts on me as a fitness blogger or influencer and I can just think for myself. It’s funny how clothing can do that to a person, but it does. We often say “here are my regular people clothes” when referring to items that are not exercise gear so I guess I’ll label my lounge wear as “my pausing from life” clothes.
Third Love recently launched loungewear which is awesome because there are days where I just don’t want to be in workout clothing and silky PJs is just a little extra. It’s made with seamless bamboo, which means no itchy seams and naturally antimicrobial to keep you dry and cool.
ThirdLove is an internet based company who utilizes tech in order to help you find the perfect bra fit from the comfort of your own home. They even offer bras with half-sized cups which is incredible because I feel like I’m one of the 50% of women who fall between standard cup sizes. To start, you can take the Fit Finder Quiz.
ThirdLove let’s you Try Before You Buy (choosing from one of their best selling bras: 24/7 Classic T-Shirt bra, 24/7 Classic Full Coverage bra or 24/7 Push Up bra) or my personal favorite the Longline Lace Balconette Bra. You just pay for shipping and try it out (even wash it) for 30 days. If you like it, you keep it and if you don’t like it, you can return it and the bra is donated to both local San Francisco charities and women’s charities through their Bras for All program where they’ve given over $1 million worth of bras to women in need since 2013.
Thanks to ThirdLove, a brand I love and trust, for sponsoring this post. Partnerships like this make GOFITJO possible.
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It’s #transformationtuesday so naturally what we see are photos of people who have lost weight or made some sort of improvement so that we can cheer them on with muscle emojis, emojis with heart eyes, and the common comments of “…so proud of you!” “You look amazing!” “Wow this is incredible!” And of course there’s nothing wrong with any of that. I’m not hating on it. I used to be on the #progresspic train constantly especially when I first started this account years ago. But what we rarely see is #transformation photos depicting regression because the truth is there’s a lot of self inflicted shame. A few days ago in my #IGstories I had mentioned that there was a something I haven’t told many people about, mostly because I was still learning how to process this emotion, and was trying to think about how to put it into words. So here it goes…