How to manifest your own reality

Did you know that you have the ability to manifest your own reality?

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The first time someone told me this several years ago I thought “ummm go somewhere with that woo woo...” 🙅🏽‍♀️ But the last couple of years has really taught me to open up my mind, heart, and whole self to the idea that manifesting our desired reality is possible and it starts with conscious decisions. As I sit here on set I can’t help but think about the steps I used to manifest my dreams and I wanted to share them with you.⠀⠀⠀⠀

1. Have a vision.

You don’t have to know the exact plans, but have a vision for what you desire and get specific. Last year I wrote a list of goals: personal and professional that were extremely specific. So write down 10-20 specific things you desire. These can be little dreams or big dreams. Me personally, I like to think expansively and large and tend to write down dreams that are out there, after-all anything is possible.

2. Ask the universe.

Meditation and prayer are definitely keys to having a clear line to the universe, our highest selves, God, or whatever you believe in, but what I mean about asking the universe is to talk bravely about your goals or dreams. We often times keep our dreams to ourselves because of fear of judgment. It’s vulnerable to share our desires, but the ability to speak openly and bravely about desires gives the universe an opportunity to help align you and your goals with the right people or experiences that can help you get to what you desire.

3. Get intentional about your actions.

Work towards your vision even if you don’t have the exact plan. When you get focused and intentional, you tell energy where to go. While there’s nothing wrong with getting distracted from time to time, keep in mind our dreams require a certain amount of energy. Ask yourself where is my energy being directed to?

4. Trust the process and have a strong belief in your desires.

We all have self-doubt, no one is immune to it. But if you lack the belief in your dreams even by one bit then chances are you’re blocking your own manifestation. Dig deep and try to understand where the self doubt is coming from or where it stems from so that you can change it.

5. Be grateful and keep your vibrations high!

Gratitude keeps us in a present state of mind when we’re actively working towards our desires. This is so important because every step you take towards your desires is a growth opportunity to learn from. Some lessons or challenges may not work out the way we expected, but it can keep your vibrations high by focusing on gratitude then you can stay unattached to the outcome.

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Hope these help you manifest your dreams. But now I’m curious what steps do you use to manifest your own. Share them with me in the comments below.

Our MidCentury Backyard Reveal

Our MidCentury Backyard Reveal

One of the things we loved about our new home was the fact that we had a backyard. Our old place was a 3 story town home unit that had a small patio deck that was also home to the AC unit for the house. We had a pool as part of that housing community, which was great when we wanted to be outdoors enjoying the summer months, but nothing beats having a backyard for the kids to play in and the dog to run around freely.

Own your power with Athleta Girl

I was recently on a panel speaking about my career journey and I had said something along the lines of “we as the women today are in such an incredible time and place where we can be the example to our younger generation of women of how to exercise our own power with love and grace to manifest change in our lives.”

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As a mother of two young daughters I remember feeling both afraid and empowered to be raising two beautiful women in this crazy modern world. It’s definitely no easy task especially with all the that’s been happening with women’s rights lately. But for me that meant I had the ability to help construct a whole new set of rules or guideposts for them to live by, and that is empowering in itself.

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I’m so excited to be celebrating the International Day of the Girl with Athleta as they partner with Girls Leadership to help equip girls with skills to use the power of their voice. The International Day of the Girl is an important day for us to come together under the same goal to highlight, discuss, and take action to advance rights and opportunities for girls everywhere. And since women’s rights is still relatively new(ish) to us, it’s important that we celebrate it with our younger generation in any way we can. To help celebrate and support the work that Girls Leadership is doing, Athleta launched an exclusive line of limited edition All Kinds of Powerful mantra tees which the portion of the proceeds will be donated to Girls Leadership.

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Growing up my parents never spoke to me about bravery, courage, and the power of using my voice. I’m not sure if it was because I was a child of immigrant parents or if it was merely because they grew up in the time where it was the cultural norm for women to conform to all of society’s values instead of redefining their own.

One of the things we’ve been doing a home a lot lately is defining our values on a deeper level. We’ve been asking ourselves how we want to live and lead our lives here at home for ourselves and for those around us. One of the things I challenge my girls with high-mileage questions so that they can investigate their thoughts around that answer and define something that is more authentic to them.

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I asked my girls what does power mean to them. Olivia had answered “Power to me is being strong and independent.” Hearing this answer made my heart sing because independence is one of those characteristics I value in people and to hear my 8 year old girl use that as a way to describe power tugged on my heart strings. My eldest Airis said, “To be powerful is to be strong and a good leader.” The moment she said a good leader, I thought WOW! These girls are so empowered and filled with integrity. They also understand that everyone’s definition of powerful is unique to that person and it doesn’t diminish another person’s perspective of it. In fact they choose to learn from the differences rather than distance themselves from the other person.

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Power to me means

being a good leader.

Every girl deserves to know that she matters, she has a voice, and that voice can change the world around her. Here are some ways that you can strike up a conversation that helps her find ways to use her power.

Acknowledge that she is already powerful.

I cannot stress the importance of positive reinforcement and acknowledging the strength each person has inside, especially a young girl. Acknowledging one’s personal strength and power provides a strong foundation of self worth that they can continue to build on as they grow.








Power is honesty when it comes from a place of love.

Honesty and truth turns pain into power, but only when it comes from a pure place of love as the intention. When our voices are used in a malicious manner it doesn’t serve our highest purpose and only causes destruction.








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Help her find a version of power that works for her.

There are so many different examples of female leaders who are strong, independent, and powerful in their voice. Some are introverts, others are extroverts, and there are plenty of women in different industries leading in different ways. Allowing them to see different examples gives them space to create an ideal version of what might work for themselves.


Ask her to define power.

Power is not about having control over a situation or person. It is however about having the influence to create positive change. Make sure to help her understand that her words matter and her actions can impact others.


We’re celebrating this day by honoring our girls with love and celebrating them for their strength, courage, and power to be themselves. How are you celebrating?  


This post was sponsored by Athleta and I was compensated to write this post, but all the opinions are 100% my own.
































JUST ASK JO: How Do I Balance Blogging and Family Life

QUESTION: 

First, Ive been following you for awhile—I absolutely love your mission and passion you have for what you do and how much love you have for your family. Truly inspiring!

Secondly, I am a new mama and have recently started blogging, but I am having such trouble keeping my motivation to work on it (mostly because of being so focused on my sweet baby). I was wondering if you had any advice on balancing your work and family life, and how to stay motivated? 

Much love and thanks, 
Kenzie 

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ANSWER:

The ever so elusive question of balancing work and family life. First off, congrats on your blog. I know the excitement it feels to start jotting down thoughts, writing, and creating content that comes from the heart. It’s overwhelming at times especially when it begins to feel like you’re just standing in a dust storm trying to make sense of it all. Balance can feel like the same thing which is why I believe in harmony and taking things one day at a time.

The focus and motivation to work on my blog, create content, and to write ebb and flow. It’s probably one of the largest struggles that bloggers rarely talk about. If you’re like me than writing is a form of therapy and can almost be cathartic. Sometimes in your own writing you get overwhelmed add that with family life it’s a perfect cocktail for chaos.

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So here are some tangible things you can do to help balance out work/family life:

Create a schedule that works for you

If you’re freelancing, work for yourself, or have the flexibility to work from home at your 9-5 make sure to create a schedule that works for you, your work, and your family. Since working for myself I’ve adopted a 10AM - 6PM work day on most days and I love it!


My ideal day typically looks like this:

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  • 6:00AM - wake up

  • 6:30AM - go to the gym

  • 8:00AM - get back home. Hubs takes kids to school (Jonathan took on the role of stay-at-home dad when he went full time with his photography business over 8 years ago. So a lot of the drop off/pick up routines are still managed by him)

  • 9:00AM - breakfast/catch up with the hubs on the day

  • 9:30/10:00AM - start my work day

  • 12:00PM - lunch AWAY FROM MY DESK!

  • 6:00PM - dinner time

  • 7:00PM - unplugged hang time with the fam. This is so important to us and something we do our best to uphold.

  • 10:00PMish - bedtime and rinse and repeat

Set boundaries!!!

I cannot stress how important creating boundaries are for work/life balance. Boundaries are not walls. Boundaries are doors and you have the option and choice to open those doors whenever you want/need to in order to adjust to life’s constant changes. For me, boundaries aren’t actually put into place for the family, they are actually in place because I tend to be a work-a-holic and this helps me to keep my harmony while juggling both work and family.

One boundary that is pretty strict for me is the amount of time I spend working. I try really hard not to put in more than 30-35 hours a week of active work time. As a blogger/social media influencer I often get invited to social gatherings and that’s all part of the role of marketing. I also roll that time up into my work week so I don’t feel like I’m a complete slave to my work.

The other boundary that’s relatively firm is the day(s) I take coaching sessions with clients. Typically those days are Tuesday and Thursday and it really works well for me to keep that consistent.

The not so tangible…

Creative Motivation

The motivation needed to focus on work can be really difficult when you have young kids and all you want to do is hang with the babes. Listen to your instincts! If right now your focus is on your sweet baby then let it be. They are only little for a small period of time. But if you’re really looking to find motivation to write and work on your blog then maybe blocking out time to focus on two days of blogging/writing is what might work best.

Motivation can both be found external and internal. External motivation is when someone behaves in a way that is outside of that person. It often comes from parents, boss, coworkers, family, and salary or promotion (advancement). Internal motivation engages in a behavior that is personally motivating. Identifying which motivation is fueling your desire to work on your blog could be the first step to breaking out of this work slump you’re experiencing.

Celebrate the small wins!

Once you’ve broken out that slump, make sure to celebrate you. This helps create positive reinforcement to the steps you’re making towards your blogging/work goals. Celebrate even if the step happens to be opening your laptop, writing a few words, and closing it 20 minutes later. Celebrate the small wins, this applies to every area of your life.

Give yourself grace

This by far is my most important tip on regaining motivation in any area of life. Discipline gets you started on the journey, grace and self love keeps you going. Life is going to get messy and motivation, creativity, and the desire to pour into your hustle will ebb and flow. Don’t beat yourself up too much. Each area in life has a season and just like seasons they come and go.

Hope this helps!



5 Tips for Turning a Stressful Morning into a #PowerHour

5 Tips for Turning a Stressful Morning into a #PowerHour

The kids are back in school and I’m so thrilled! Don’t get me wrong, I love that I get to spend more time with them when they are home for the summer, but sometimes that can get really chaotic and challenging for two parents who work for themselves. One of the things I hear from women all the time is how chaotic mornings can be when it comes to rushing everyone out of the house to start their day. Below I’m sharing 5 tips you can try to help change that.