We all experience insecurity and it hits us as every stage in life.
Around this time of year for the past two years I would normally be finishing up my last few weeks of competition prep. Normally these preps have an all or nothing mindset and world that surrounds it. I still have many friends and acquaintances who are currently “leaning out” for shows or photoshoots. I’ll see their progress on social media or them at the gym and feel slightly jealous because I want to look like that too and that I had before also.
A serious case of FOMO hit: It felt like I was missing out. It felt like because they were lean, I was fat. It felt like giving up. It felt like I was less than. It felt like I wasn’t relevant anymore.
For a brief moment I was feeling insecure and unworthy.
Here’s the thing I had to remember, being super lean and 10-12% of body fat (which I was this at my very leanest) meant that I would have to go back onto an intense diet and that for the past two years I was trying to maintain this stage lean physique all year round which is near impossible to do with my current work/life demands.
The past week I had to take a step back and dive into the truth of my insecurity, which sometimes can be very hard to do.
I had to remember what competition prep looked like for me at the time I was on it. Which was more time spent doing cardio, saying ‘no' to a lot more social gatherings with friends, and making my competition prep a higher priority than my family time.
I had to remind myself of my goals: to become a healthier and happier version of myself, to find balance and sustainability with an active lifestyle, and to be a great example of a modern day mother to my daughters.
I had to remove myself from someone else’s experience and progress by focusing on my experience and journey. So that I can continue to build the confidence in mine.
Through my own experience I know a sustainable weight loss or lifestyle is going to benefit you more in the long run. It will give you tools to navigate and practice building the confidence and knowledge you need to make the right choices in your day to day life. Diets or workouts that are designed as fast fixes will only result in the potential of gaining it all back again.
So here are the things you have to remember when insecurity of #morningabs or #abcheck photos hit the internet:
- do a quick self exam on your confidence, goals, and the approach of your process regardless of what others are doing.
- ask yourself why are you feeling this way? What is the trigger that pushed this emotion of insecurity or jealously? what are you telling yourself that is making you believe that you are not good enough?
- Fitness looks different on every body. No two experiences will ever be the same. Success comes in different forms. We have to define our own meaning of success, worthiness, and beauty. And once you’ve done that pursue it relentlessly.
I'd love to know what do you do in times like these? How do you get back on track?