So hello...I've realized I've had a very very bad case of writers block and I finally realized today why. But before we go into that, let's talk about what to do when life throws you a jab, a curve ball, a rock, you name it. I feel like most of us in this world are ambitious go getters who like to have all their ducks lined in a row, checking things off a list to feel accomplished, and making sure that things are being done in sequence. *raising my hand sheepishly* But life doesn't always go according to plan. One of the biggest struggles I've had to learn to overcome is letting go of expectations and adapting as best as I can in situations of abrupt change.
We do our best to set ourselves up for success. We prep our meals for the week, we plan out our workouts, we set our 3 month, 6 month, life long goals, and we do our best to go forth and attack them with intention and heart. And then something happens to derail us. It's easy to fall into the trap of disappointment, let down, shame, and all the other emotions that add to challenging our own self worth.
Here are 3 very simple rules I try to live by when things don't go according to my plans.
1. Let it go! There's a reason why God and the universe decided to throw you a curve ball and whatever that is you've got to listen and let it go. When we hang on too tight to expectations there are more chances of getting hurt. The quicker you can learn to let go of the idea that you have perfected your strategy in life, the easier it will be for you to move past the emotional onset of disappointment.
2. Take time to reflect, journal, doodle, rest. Simply do something that allows you to think about what the universe is trying to tell you. Or what you're trying to tell yourself. Maybe you've been running too hard on trying to succeed in one area of your life and have been neglecting another area. Whatever the cause, there's something that needed to happen in order life to balance itself out.
3. Adapt and embrace the change. I know that this can be really hard to do, but adapting to the new changes in life will help you pivot into a new direction and one that you're supposed to be on. You'll also learn new things about the skills and creative thinking that you come equipped with.
Story time: Life recently threw me the sharpest jab ever, I just got laid off my full time job at VSCO. And although my messages on social media are true and I'm looking at this with positivity and full on opportunity. I'm not going to lie and say that it didn't hurt. I had been at VSCO for nearly 5 years and had watched that baby grow into what it is now. BUT this moment in time is giving me the opportunity to explore a new career in health and wellness coaching which is something I've been thinking about for the past year and a half. In a lot of ways I was comfortable with stability, its a good thing for my family. But what would I be teaching my daughters if I didn't try to pursue my dreams with my whole heart. On that note I start school on November 14th at Integrative Nutrition and I'm so excited and scared. And so with that I'll end with this quote: