"I am failure for not sticking to consistently training and for not eating as clean as I should have." This is the story I could be telling myself. This is the opinion that could've turn into a fact. I once heard that our reality is largely made up of our perceptions and beliefs, not facts. And that our ideas and theories are based on experiences and opinions, so much so that we start to create stories from these views and judgements. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So instead of writing a failure story, I chose to look at this set of progress pictures taken a few days ago and tell myself a different story. "Well Jo, you haven't put as much energy into your fitness commitments and IT'S 👌🏾. It doesn't make you less of an example of a strong woman. Since October of last year you were working on recovering from a shoulder injury, rebuilding a marriage that was close to divorce, raising two young women (including an emotional teenager), creating long lasting friendships with women you once felt unworthy to be around, and most importantly going back to school to start a career in health and life coaching that you've been day dreaming about for almost 2 years. Living a HEALTHY LIFE means nourishing all the areas that make you whole. Your fitness is just a part of that. You're a bad ass Jo and you have what it takes to get your groove back. Other areas in your life needed your energy more than you needed to focus on leaning out." ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The chatter in your head will try to find meaning in it because this obstacle is clearly telling you that your dream isn’t supposed to happen. Remind yourself that society has romanticized a concept of what beauty, fitness, and loving yourself looks like. The power to define what beauty means to you is within you. You are the source of your reality. You are the creator of your story. On this part of #therefinedcollective we're talking about "Loving Yourself in the Skin You're In" and on www.gofitjo.com I've shared 6 very powerful things to do when you're beginning to feel the resistance in loving yourself. #linkinbio ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #TheRefinedCollective series was written in collaboration with several incredible women sharing their positivity and light to the 🌎.
My husband had asked me, "Why did you feel so compelled to share this?" I told him that in some way I felt like needing to release a bit of pain that was starting to eat my alive from the inside out. There was a small tiny ounce of me that was beginning to feel the same emotions I felt before my fitness journey began. And before it started to infest my mind with negativity I wanted to face the truth and flip the script of my inner critic. There's an inner bitch within all of us. She's typically the one standing in the corner with her arms crossed, pursed lips, and that smug look across her face saying the nastiest things under her breathe. The words that escape her mouth are audible enough to hear the words clearly, but not loud enough to confront her. Yes you know that critic well, she's always there in those moments of doubt, fear, shame, and blame.
I was writing about Loving Your Skin for The Refined Collective, which originally was going to be a post all about skin care, but as I sat staring in front of my computer at the article I had already written I was pretty much disgusted at myself for not being authentic, raw, and real. These qualities that most people say they appreciate about me when they meet me. So just a handful of hours before the post was scheduled to go live I rewrote the blog post and IG post that caused a bit of a storm. I wanted to show you guys me, in this moment. And the simple acknowledgement from the hundreds of comments from women saying "I've been there too..." was enough to start yet another healing process.
This is me after 7 days
There were only a handful of things that I changed in order to start to see progress.
- I cut out the processed food intake.
- Became more consistent with my workout schedule.
- Added 3 days of cardio to my 4-5 days of lifting.
- Added more healthy fats into my diet and reduced the processed carbs.
The feeling of creating my own plan to help redefine what balance is to me in 2017 is exciting, scary, but most importantly self empowering. I've learned enough over the past few years of my fitness journey to understand how to listen to my body and take action towards my goals. Now that things are much more aligned in my personal and career life its time to start putting all the pieces together again. Here we go!