The above quote that I had found on the lovely internet is one that I absolutely live by. I think people often look at the successes of others and forget all the sacrifices and failures that they walked through to get to this place of "success". As a young adult my perception of success was definitely skewed. I would look up to many successful men and women and who drove fancy cars, had large houses, and a 6+ figure paycheck and write that off as the definition of success. As I started working towards a fulfilling career as a hairstylist some of these attributes to success was definitely attained. However there were so many sacrifices and failures to get there.
Becoming a mother and going through the emotional struggles I went through as an adult my definition of success quickly changed. Success no longer became measured by means of monetary value, but of happiness, self worth, and working on becoming this example of a relentless hard working modern day woman.
In relation to my fitness goals, I have had many failures in the past. My first experiences working out and exercising was before my husband and I got married. I had to work on getting fit in order to look good in my wedding dress. I had hired a trainer and trimmed down just in time for my wedding. Shortly after the wedding, the weight crept back on and all the work done in a span of 8 months quickly went through the window. Then the feeling of failure and disappointment began to set in. I felt like I completely failed myself in staying fit after the wedding. Looking back at my past lifestyle it was easy to see why. I stopped eating as healthy as I did when I was working towards the goal of being a fit bride. I removed part of the equation that I now know is such a huge part to the success of any weight loss goal! This was my first failure towards my goal of living a healthy lifestyle.
Years later I tried changing my nutrition: juice cleanses, eating organic foods, almost becoming vegetarian, eating local, and just simply being more conscious about the foods I put into my body. Although that put a dent into things I was missing the exercise. Shortly after investing my time and efforts into switching things up, the weight came back on.
2 years ago things really changed for me. I was able to identify the causes of my own failures and unhappiness. Once those causes were identified it was easy to see what the answer was to fix these. This is when I turned my past failed attempts into my now "success" with losing weight.
Here are some tips on how to turn your failure into success:
- Change your perspective. This is easier said than done, but when you change your thinking and revise how you look at the situation, a forward motion towards your goals gets set into place. Know that your outcome is a result of how you view the situation. When you feel like you've failed at your attempts to get into shape or make healthier lifestyle choices, get creative and find ways to switch things up. Look at the situation from different angles. Know that there is more than one way to get to your goals.
- Reevaluate your plans. While you're gaining a new method of thinking, be open to new ideas and solutions to help you get to where you want to be. I always believe that change happens best when you are open to new challenges and experiences. When you've come up with a whole set of new intentions, write them down, and make a plan towards this goal. Surround yourself with people who want to help you reach this goal, hire a trainer, try a new fitness class, read about nutrition, and learn more about this new lifestyle you want and give it a try.
- Refocus. Once you have established your goals and your plans do your best to make the conscious effort to make intentional steps towards these new goals. Use the past experiences and feelings of failure to drive you to succeed.
The feeling of failure is more common to people than the feeling of success. I believe that since this feeling is more common than the feeling of success we often get stuck in a mindset to search for failures instead of focusing on ways to keep trying until we succeed. Our challenge in life is to use the abilities we have, and compensate for the ones we don't. Make each attempt count and don't give up.