I love this man more and more every single day! Encarnacion Photography has been in business for about 7 years. It's evolved as a business as we both continue to grow. Working together with you life partner can be challenging, especially when you're trying to love one another in different roles.
About 4 years ago things got really challenging for us as a married couple. I was still handling a lot of the operations for Encarnacion Photography all the while trying to maintain my own clientele in the salon before making my major career change of working at a startup company called VSCO.
This weekend my husband I was off to shoot a 12-hour wedding in Sebastopol, CA at a beautiful location called The Barlow. I've shared this on my Instagram in my past few posts and I probably sound like a broken record or a whiny arrant child, but prepping for my next competition has been exhausting for me, not because the workouts are excessively hard or prep for it is challenging, but I've been shooting with my husband every weekend since mid July which means this mama has been working 6 days a week!
On our way home I started to reflect on my marriage journey and how far we've come and here are some things I wanted to share:
1. Owning a business with your spouse is hard!
No one ever wrote a book about business ownership with your spouse and even friends who encouraged us to launch our wedding/lifestyle photography business only disclosed small fragments of how much of a challenge this would be. Jonathan and I have had our share of fights over how our business should be ran. Some were good fights and others were petty, but all of them were valuable. The arguments helped us see the passion we both had for what we do and helped us see different perspectives of how we should operate our business.
2. Nourishment for the belly is vital!
We work hard and long days, they are taxing on the body. After years of photographing weddings and hangry spells we learned the importance of packing food for the day. I pack my meals for the day and pack him a meal and protein bars. Creative energy gets really low when the body is out of fuel, make sure to feed it both with food and laughter.
3. Respect each other's way of working.
This was probably the biggest lesson I've learned in 7 years of working with my husband! He and I both work very differently and are very different people. His workflow on how he approaches his day is quite different than mine. I've learned to back off and give him space to grow as a creative and my business partner.
4. Find love in every moment.
We're lucky enough to experience a wedding day with other couples, their families, and friends. It gives us a stronger understanding of love from different points of views. Although a wedding day for us is work, we see it like an all day date. How lucky am I to date my husband while watching people in love and happy?! It's so awesome.
5. Enjoy the ride!
I sit passenger seat during these days and often times when people ask us "Is that your husband? Your his boss?" I get to say, "Nope, today he's mine!" Sitting in the passenger seat of his day is truly an amazing experience. I've seen him grow as a creative, as a husband, and a man. While I spend most of my workday managing others, these days I get to sit back and enjoy while he takes full control. It's a collaboration we both get to enjoy.