I became a mom at 21 and entering motherhood at such an early age meant that my twenties were spent creating family bonds instead of bonding with other females. Which became a little more challenging for me to navigate through my mid 20s and into my early 30s. The one decision to embark on a healthy lifestyle really changed this for me. More than ever I needed a girl gang in my life to help me though new challenges and women that can help support and encourage my development and growth.
Having a girl gang is essential to the soul, just like food is essential for nourishment. We hear often that some women avoid friendships with other women due to drama, cattiness, unhealthy competition, and simply the fear of our individual values not being understood. The truth is drama happens in every direction, you’ll find it in motherhood with your children, relationships with your spouse, and even in the work place. It’s not something any one should associate with a specific gender because its more about the people you associate with or even yourself.
Amongst many other good reasons like shopping, workout buddies, and mimosa brunch dates with your girl gang, here are 5 values of a girl gang:
Every where around around me women are breaking through glass ceilings, crashing down barriers, and changing society as we speak today. It’s so incredible to see woman coming together supporting each other in efforts in life, fitness, health, and career development. Women are naturally built for nourishment and its incredible when your girl gang truly wants to see you win at life and you should want the same for them too.
Women share unique bonding experiences that only our hearts will understand. Some of the greatest values and lessons in life that I hold now are ones passed on to me by that friends that have come and gone in my life and they are ones I’m excited to share with my daughters.
Compassion and encouragement is something we need more than ever in the world. There are many times as women we tend to feel weak and overwhelmed with the daily demands of life, and its an incredible feeling to be able to call a friend in a time when you need to hear the encouragement the most. I know for me I call on my girl gang when I need to be reminded of how awesome I am and I do the same for them.
Honesty is such an important value to me. Often times I can get stuck in my own world of ambition and get caught up in my own messy life. Your girl gang will call you out on these mistakes out of love so that you can take the responsibility for your actions and get back on track on being the bad ass and good woman you are. Surrounding yourself with women who can tell you how it is with good intentions is so important in this world today.
A girl gang is there to support you at your best and to love you at your worst. They are the ones who you can lean on in times when your marriage or relationships are getting hard and when control in life is slipping through your hands. Vulnerability is the magic sauce that brings us together. Its the thread that allows us to share so many incredible life stories, struggles, hopes, fears, and dreams.
I used to fear being worthy enough for true friendships because of the stigma that women or girls were just “drama driven”, a social stigma that was driven hard into my mind as a middle school girl and well into my high school years. As my daughter begins to navigate through her first few years of middle school I’m excited to share with her the new life lessons I’ve learned on the importance of womanhood. These lessons I feel I would’ve never learned until I began to share my story and journey of health and happiness.