Self discovery

The Steps to Self Discovery

Are you clear about you want in life?

What defines you?

What makes you happy?


Deep questions, I know, but If you don’t stop to reflect for a second, you may never truly know the answers to the questions about. When you avoid the process of self discovery, you are basically in denial of the real YOU. On the surface you may appear like your function but underneath it all are limiting beliefs and sabotaging thoughts that are holding you back. Maybe you haven’t faced these demons because they are still very much alive. You may not realize it but they are probably the reasons why you have never been truly happy or that you feel as if success is something you’ll never feel.

Self discovery is not an a one-day or a one-week affair. In fact, it can take a lifetime of building a relationship with yourself.

Here are some steps to start:

1. Face your fears and limiting beliefs. This is probably the hardest for most people but it’s the first thing that needs to be done to discover your most authentic self. It’s common to hide our emotions and feelings due to fear of judgement either by others or by one’s self. But as soon as you start to peel back layers you’ll be able to see the joy of knowing yourself more.

2. Pursue self love over everything else. Self love isn’t selfish, it’s a necessary act to discovering who you are. Discover your strengths and celebrate them. The more you focus on the positive areas of your self such as the things that light your soul on fire or talents that bring you joy, the lesser you focus on the negative. Find what makes your heart dance and your soul sing. These are the things that define you.

3. Clarify your values. Ooh this is a big one for me and typically one of the first assignments I give to my coaching clients. To me values are the cornerstone and foundation of what gives us purpose. They help to define our actions and behaviors and keep us aligned when we’re getting off track.

4. Spend time alone. This is the hardest for people because these days were never truly alone. The ability to stay connected is far too accessible and sometimes being alone brings on a sense of abandonment. But just like any relationship, quality time is essential and in order to build a stronger relationships with your self you’ve gotta to spend some time alone with yourself.

For some this might mean getting away regularly even if it’s for a day, but if you don’t have the ability to do that then a simple 5 minute block scheduled in your day can help you tap back into that sense of self.

The more you know yourself the more empowered you’re going to be. So maybe his weekend you take the time to simply sit and take yourself on a much needed date.