A limiting belief is something you believe to be true about yourself, others, or even the world. These beliefs may hold you back from taking chances, not being open to the opportunities in life that come your way, or simply keep you stuck on focusing on the negative aspects of your circumstances.
So hello...I've realized I've had a very very bad case of writers block and I finally realized today why. But before we go into that, let's talk about what to do when life throws you a jab, a curve ball, a rock, you name it. I feel like most of us in this world are ambitious go getters who like to have all their ducks lined in a row, checking things off a list to feel accomplished, and making sure that things are being done in sequence. *raising my hand sheepishly* But life doesn't always go according to plan. One of the biggest struggles I've had to learn to overcome is letting go of expectations and adapting as best as I can in situations of abrupt change.
We do our best to set ourselves up for success. We prep our meals for the week, we plan out our workouts, we set our 3 month, 6 month, life long goals, and we do our best to go forth and attack them with intention and heart. And then something happens to derail us. It's easy to fall into the trap of disappointment, let down, shame, and all the other emotions that add to challenging our own self worth.
Here are 3 very simple rules I try to live by when things don't go according to my plans.
1. Let it go! There's a reason why God and the universe decided to throw you a curve ball and whatever that is you've got to listen and let it go. When we hang on too tight to expectations there are more chances of getting hurt. The quicker you can learn to let go of the idea that you have perfected your strategy in life, the easier it will be for you to move past the emotional onset of disappointment.
2. Take time to reflect, journal, doodle, rest. Simply do something that allows you to think about what the universe is trying to tell you. Or what you're trying to tell yourself. Maybe you've been running too hard on trying to succeed in one area of your life and have been neglecting another area. Whatever the cause, there's something that needed to happen in order life to balance itself out.
3. Adapt and embrace the change. I know that this can be really hard to do, but adapting to the new changes in life will help you pivot into a new direction and one that you're supposed to be on. You'll also learn new things about the skills and creative thinking that you come equipped with.
Story time: Life recently threw me the sharpest jab ever, I just got laid off my full time job at VSCO. And although my messages on social media are true and I'm looking at this with positivity and full on opportunity. I'm not going to lie and say that it didn't hurt. I had been at VSCO for nearly 5 years and had watched that baby grow into what it is now. BUT this moment in time is giving me the opportunity to explore a new career in health and wellness coaching which is something I've been thinking about for the past year and a half. In a lot of ways I was comfortable with stability, its a good thing for my family. But what would I be teaching my daughters if I didn't try to pursue my dreams with my whole heart. On that note I start school on November 14th at Integrative Nutrition and I'm so excited and scared. And so with that I'll end with this quote:
This week I've taken a really large step back from Instagram mostly due to a really busy work schedule. I'm heading out to Kauai in a couple of weeks and of course like any normal hard working adult work just seems to pile up leading up to the vaca. On top of all that the vacation-itis hit, it's like senioritis but vacations. You know it's that feeling you get when you're staring at a blank page just waiting for something to happen, but nothing does because you're mind is already in paradise sipping on a fresh coconut and basking in the sun. Yup that's my current state.
Although my IG has slowed down this week for writing has been crazy busy and super exciting. I've written several guest posts on other blogs that I'd love to share with you.
Each month I contribute to Lucy Activewear's blog called Let's Go. It's an incredible collection mixed in with brand stories from Lucy and written pieces from other bloggers and fitness professionals. I've been blessed enough to have this opportunity with them for over a year now and it's been a fun and exciting one. I was asked to do a piece on staying motivated while traveling which was perfect timing for my trip to Hawaii. To see a full body workout that you can do anywhere in the world and a few of my travel health hacks, head on over to Lucy Let's Go.
Second, is a guest post on The Millennial Miss. I'd like to believe I'm a mentor, not always a good one, but a mentor and one of the things I truly enjoy is seeing some of my gems passed down the future female leaders of world. I met Chelsea, a little over a year ago at a blogger's summit called Create Cultivate. You know that feeling when you meet someone and you just gravitate to because they are a ball of sunshine and genuine laughter, that's Chelsea. When she asked me to write for her blog I jumped in a heart beat. Topics began to swirl in and out of my head and then I remember what was the biggest thing that haunted me in my 20s, feeling empty even when I had it all.
From the outside looking in, I had it all set: a husband, a family, and a career that I was passionate about. But deep inside I still felt like I was missing something, I remember blogging about it in the first blog I ever started.
To read more head over to my guest post on The Millennial Miss.
Third, is a 3 part workout series I did for MOUS Products which also includes a little interview on me. I love doing interviews as much as I possibly can. It's a really great opportunity for me to sit and think on my answers and what matters most to me. It's so easy for us to get caught up in the hustle and to forget to reflect on the journey. Interviews have been such a great way for me to do that.
Linked below are all of the entire workout series. Each of these workouts I do once a week in the gym. It helps to keep the body a fat burning machine.
Last but not least is a feature on the Belo-Forte Journal. If you've never checked out the workout gear from Belo-Forte run to their site now. They have incredibly sexy pieces that are both hot to wear and functional. My favorite are these laser cut capris that I recently posted on Instagram and in a blog post. Belo-Forte asked me what success means to me...head to their blog to read the answer.
I know I say this all the time, but seriously from the bottom of my heart thank you so so so much for being there for me through out my journey. It's been an incredible one and my success in life is partially due to all the love I have from my readers.
When I'm feeling the itch for a little inspiration and motivation I start scouring the internet for motivational quotes, because everyone needs a little reminder that everything is awesome.
Here are some of my favorite quotes from tonight's search: